We hate to admit it, but relationships go through “Ritual Ruts”. At times it may feel like your relationship or marriage is stagnant. You are more easily irritated by your partner and those butterflies you once felt are gone. Your sexual desire decreases, and you feel less excited to put your best foot forward. This doesn’t mean the relationship is dead, it means it needs changes.
Relationships and marriages develop habits. Over time, we inherently give the relationship less attention and time. We are on our phones more, miss meals together, and spend less quality time. Over time, we find ourselves in a relationship rut. This doesn’t mean the relationship is dead. This mean we need to change our relationship habits. To avoid those ritual ruts, engage in these 6 behaviors!
- Call over text
I’m sure it is safe to say that we all have wildly misconstrued a text message. Sometimes we get the tone wrong or misinterpret the message. It may be easier to send a text, but it is not as healthy for your relationship. Speaking on the phone allows us to connect with our partner on a deeper level. Take the extra time and make the call!
- Ask About Their Day
You may know exactly how their day went. Ask anyway. This shows you care and support them. This question can mean a lot to people. I have heard clients say, “no one ever asks how my day was”. It is a very lonely feeling when no one asks about our day. Don’t make your partner feel lonely.
- Eat Meals Together
Whether its breakfast, lunch or dinner, have a meal together. This is such an intimate moment to talk. Put the phones down and turn Netflix off and connect.
- Stay Off Social Media
Being on IG while hanging out with your partner only sends the message that you would rather spend time with your followers more than you want to spend time with your partner.
- Confide in One Another
When you are in a relationship rut, you may want to turn outsider the relationship for support, guidance or someone to listen to your current stress. Instead of turning away, turn inward to your partner. This is an opportunity to connect.
- Plan Time for One Another
Plan routine date nights. Weekend calendars fill up quickly between social obligations, self-care, family and let’s face it catching up on work. Plan time for each. Tip: Consult one another before making plans with friends or family.